Why Care Matters More Than Love

Words That Hold You – Blog Series

By Prahin Prathapan

Most people are loved.

They have partners, children, friends who say the words.

They’ve heard “I love you” in vows, messages, and memories.

But how many people are cared for?

How many feel someone watching their exhaustion, noticing the shift in their energy, holding them when they say “I’m fine” — and knowing they’re not?

Love is a feeling.Care is an action.

Love can exist in the background — but care is what you feel in the room.

I’ve met mothers who were loved by their children, but were never asked if they had eaten that day.

Men who worked themselves sick, while being told they’re loved — but never touched with care.

Women who stayed in marriages where “I love you” was said often, but not once did someone sit beside their pain and stay silent long enough to truly hear it.

We don’t break from a lack of love.We break from the absence of care.

In my sessions, people cry not because I said something profound — but because someone finally noticed. Finally slowed down. Finally cared without asking for anything in return.

That’s what most people are aching for.

Not fireworks. Not roses. Not “I’ll always love you.”

But “I’ve got you. You don’t have to do this alone. I see you. Let me hold you here.”

I built my work — massage, sound, training, presence — on the simple act of care.

To offer what the world often withholds.

Because care is felt,even when love is uncertain.

If no one’s held you in a while,If you’re always the strong one,If you’ve been loved but never really cared for —

I’ve made space for you.

Let this be your reset.

— Prahin PrathapanYour Personal Healer